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The Kindness Project – Winning Isn’t Everything, Right?

Too often kindness is relegated to a random act performed only when we’re feeling good. But an even greater kindness (to ourselves and others) occurs when we reach out even when we aren’t feeling entirely whole. It’s not easy, and no one is perfect. But we’ve decided it’s not impossible to brighten the world one smile, one kind word, one blog post at a time. To that end, a few of us writers have established The Kindness Project, starting with a series of inspirational posts. We post the second Wednesday of every month. 

Hi Everyone!!

I hope you are all having a great week! I was having trouble figuring out what to blog about, but I got to thinking… about winning. Not like Olympic-type winning, kind of like winning an argument.

See… I like to win… arguments, that is. When I first met my husband we were both the annoying “I WIN,” type of people. We would endlessly search IMDB just to prove the other wrong. We would try anything to be right. AND you know what? We would get into fights about it. At the time, it was more important for me to be right, even with something as trivial as whether Will Smith was in that one movie with that one guy.

The older I’ve gotten the more I realize that it isn’t as important as it used to be… OKAY, that’s a lie. It’s still important, but I realize more often than not, that’s it’s okay to let him believe something or just let it go. It’s pretty much the HARDEST DAMN THING TO DO, but you know what? I usually feel better when I do.

It’s kind of a cliche. I mean, winning isn’t everything? Come on, Erica. You can’t really believe that.

I do. Sometimes, it’s the losses that make us more well-rounded. It’s the losses that taught me humility. It’s the losses that shaped me and my writing. I mean, if we won all the time, we would have nothing to aspire to, right?

What do you think? Are you a gracious loser?

Want to join us? Grab our button, sign up and spread a little kindness.

Love ya! Er

27 Responses to “The Kindness Project – Winning Isn’t Everything, Right?”

  1. I try to tell my husband this, that he doesn’t always have to correct people when he knows they’re wrong. That he’s not always right anyway. Of course, he turns that right back around on me, and I’m like “WHAT? Of course I’m right.” Lol

    It’s hard to take the high ground sometimes. But relationships are more important than being right. Thanks for the reminder, E. <3

  2. You make a great point, Erica. Sometimes you have to choose between being right, and getting what you want or need.

  3. Great points. If I am with an acquaintance, I will let things go easier, even if I know they are wrong just not to rock the boat. But with my husband it is a different story. We both like to be right. 🙂 I know I need to give in easier with him.

  4. I used to have to always win an argument or have the last word and now I just say (through gritted teeth sometimes lol) “You might be right”. It has saved me so much angst.

  5. I so agree with all of it, especially your last statement, Erica… How boring would life be, if we won all the time? Victory is so much sweeter after a long haul and countless disappointments.

    Humans need this. We all need reality checks on a constant basis, if not the world would be too small to hold all our overly inflated heads…. LOL.

  6. You’re so right about losses helping us grow. We need them (even though they SUCK!) to humble us and teach lessons that no person or textbook can.

  7. Erica, i too am a “I’m right” type. This is a great reminder. It’s funny, now that i have kids i notice they do it, too. Ahhh, the know-it-all family. Not exactly what i want to be. :0) Thanks for this!

  8. Heather says:

    I love a good argument too and this is something I’ve worked on over the years as well. I’ve gotten better at letting things go, but it wasn’t always easy!

  9. Okay, I just joined up! I will be posting today, because I think kindness is an overlooked commodity in the world we live in.
    Thanks for setting this up.

    As for arguing, me and conflict are not friends. I run from it if at all possible.

    Would you believe conflict is the hardest thing for me to add in my books? Yikes!

  10. Mary Yuhas says:

    It’s hard not to speak up when we think we’re right, but just because we’re right doesn’t mean we win the battle. It can mean just the opposite. Nice post!

  11. ugh, I HATE losing! But you’re so right, it’s better to let it slide than to fight all the time. And you’re right, it makes us humble and well-rounded. Sigh. I hate it when you’re right. J/K. 😉

  12. Whenever I stick to my guns in an argument, it usually turns out I’m wrong. So these days I tend to concede… mostly…well, ok, sometimes 😉

  13. Arlee Bird says:

    I’ve learned to be a more gracious loser. It depends on what I’m losing though. I’d much prefer winning.

    Tossing It Out

  14. E.B. Black says:

    My boyfriend and I have silly arguments like that, but we never take them too seriously. We take them seriously enough to look up the answer, but admit we’re wrong once the proofs in front of us.

    I try to be a gracious loser, but I find it’s really hard to do when a group of people are watching. That’s where my biggest weakness lies.

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